From the Think Arete Newsletter
# 54 Eat Your Projections
Want to get full real fast?
Just learn to eat your projections.
Let’s say you’re criticizing someone. (Hypothetically, of course. :))
I’ll be the example: In my less enlightened moments (still tragically too often), I find myself criticizing my Goddess about not doing something she committed to doing (like meditating, getting up early, or something like that).
Now, here’s the funny thing: When *I* am doing those things, I never criticize her. It’s only when I’m not living my life fully that I give her a hard time.
So, what I’m doing is projecting my own issues onto her. Not cool.
The secret: whatever we’re criticizing someone about has nothing to do with them and everything to do with us.
The rule: don’t put your projections on other people. Eat ‘em. Yum.
The following is taken from John Randolph Price's book Nothing
Is Too Good To Be True and is very similar to the principles of ho'oponopono, and my experience with it.
To forgive means to cease feeling ill will toward anyone, but in truth there's really nothing to forgive. You've never done anything wrong, no one has ever done anything to you, and life is only what you've made up- what you've created. Every decision you've ever made in life was simply a choice, and through those choices, your life has taken many twists and turns. But none of them were right or wrong- it's just where vou were in consciousness. So there's nothing to forgive yourself for. And rather than going back and rehashing the past and wishing you'd done things differently, just love the mind-set that made the choice and get on with life. Pause and do this now.
By loving what you consider your mistakes, you change the energy pattern on the unconscious level from regret to acceptance of where you were at the time.
Now look at the people inn your life, and know that it's your consciousness in the projection mode that's attracting or repelling them. No one has done, or is doing, anything to you. The people in your life are all neutral, but will play out an experience for you in direct accordance with the tone and pitch you're playing in consciousness. They're simply showing you what you're projecting on them, so there's nothing to forgive them for. The secret in dissolving this energy is to love those who are playing a role on your stage of life for playing their parts perfectly- parts that you've scripted on both the conscious and unconscious levels. Smile and nod at them now in appreciation.
Transforming Your Life Through Radical Responsibility
My healing circle is based primarily on the practice of a Hawaiian healing method called ho'oponopono. In this method we take full responsibility for everything that enters our life, seeing the outside as a projection from the inside. Therefore when practicing this, everyone that comes into your life is telling you what you need to clear, or heal, within yourself, or they are affirming what you've done right. Therefore, if in a circle a participant is complaining about the way no one listens to her at work, we would ask ourselves what this person is showing us that *we* need to heal *within ourselves.* Do we have memories of going through the same thing? Are we going through the same thing now? Have *we* not been listening to someone? So through this process, in the circles, each person becomes a healing messenger. You will most likely find it uncanny how the people who show up for the circles are all going through the same issues that you are or have already gone through it, and this helps to affirm the oneness of All.
Once we heal something within us though the Divine power of love, empathy and forgiveness, it often also heals in the other people in our lives, automatically. Because one of the other teachings of this, and many other traditions, is that we are all ONE. The other people in your life are literally aspects of you. You heal yourself; you heal them too.
In this circle, we will blend the practice of ho'oponopono with the practice of creating your own reality. Therefore once we clear something we no longer want in our lives, we will then replace it with something we do. This is a very easy and effective tool for life transformation.
I use several ho’oponopono scripts during the circle that I and others have made up. Use whatever method works for you.
The following are examples of some of the scripts I, personally, use:
• For healing a memory, see yourself as you are now standing beside the former self that was experiencing the hurtful event (or right after). Tell her/him you are sorry s/he went through that and you love her/him unconditionally. (Note: the "sorry" here doesn't mean that the experience wasn't valuable for learning, it is an empathy "sorry.")
• I am sorry (insert problem) happened to you. Just because (name of problem) happened before, doesn't mean it has to happen now. Now I experience (insert what you want now). I love you completely. (repeat last part)
• Also, we don't have to necessarily know exactly what it is other people are telling us to heal, we just need to know that there is a conflict to clear, and we can still heal it the following ways (and often the issue will pop into our head as a sudden insight):
• Whatever it is in me that creates (name of problem) in (name of person), I heal it within me now. I am sorry and I love myself completely. (repeat last part)
• Whatever (name of person) is showing me to heal within myself, I heal it now. I am sorry and I love myself completely.
• Or you can simply say, to yourself or your Higher Self, over and over, whether you know the issue or not, some of these phrases: I’m sorry. I love you. I apologize. Thank you. Forgive me.
When doing ho’oponopono in a group you will experience shifts in yourself and get to witness them in others. You will gain more insight into your life, you will accelerate your healing process if you use them regularly, and you will create the future you want.
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